Where do you start when someone you trusted with your heart and soul cheats on you after 3 years. After they said they will spend the rest of their lives growing old with you. Then to top it off she gets married less than 3 months after she broke it off with. Thank my lucky stars or Karma that I didn't give her the ring I had saved on for over a year. You know they will cheat on the new one because they did it before. Live, learn and move on with your head high is what I say. Take the high road and real love comes to you when you least expect it.
mine made a cold-hearted remark about a late boyfriend who had died in a motorcycle accident and said that he was glad our child died (miscarriage) if i was going to be the mother....then two days later i was supposed to forget about it...i didn't
Yes my ex wanted me to use my Visa to buy tickets to a bull riding event...For some reason I could not get them ,so he freaked out at me ..then I found out that he took another women that he had been seeing for 2 months behind my back.But still telling me that he loved me and wanted me in his life...OUCH...can never forgive for that
I just try to be the best I can be...Doesn't mean perfect.
When someone tried to control me I learned I needed to try not to be controling...When some one hurt the one they loved...I tried not to do that. It boils down to the golden rules...1. Do unto others...
and... 2. Don't do to others what you don't like...
I have had some expeience with these lessons and found that if I don't learn, I am doomed to repeat and the trick is to learn from the ones in front of me.
My job is to spot these in others before I commit to them or ask for a commitment. That is what dating is for...I think.
I can remember both good things and bad things that happened and are totally unforgettable. Good things were when he always suprised me with stupid little presents when he went shopping or riding in the wind with him, my body right up to his holding him tight because it felt sooo good. Then I remember the BAD thing.. He had a close friend, a woman (more like a boarpig) that he knew for many years. I let him be friends with her because im not the jealous type, and I believed in him. Well one day, we got into an arguement. He left and never came back-he moved in with her not 3 hours later. Well, now he rides her coattail, she pays his way with everything- he dont work, has been in and out of jail, accidents galore because of being under the influence, or drunk- lost any life that sparked in his eyes. I hate to say it so mean, but what I find so unforgettable is that he left something so good- to be with something soo bad and vicious- whats unforgettable is that he made me second guess myself! He comes around now, asking to rekindle- but baby, LOVE DONT LIVE HERE NO MORE!!! LOL- He can keep the boarpig- I cant support him like she does- Besides, I'm gonna take this opportunity to get me a great guy, a real man- that wants to live life and live honestly with me without having to worry about either of us straying or lying.. Peace, love and happiness to you all!! HERE WE GOOO......
I'm fairly new here and this is my first post. My ex has only been so since September of 06, but the wounds are still fresh. After a 14 year marriage, he just up and decided that he didn't want to be married to me any more, I think his decision was partly based on his relationship with his "friend" in AT. Even he admits that we had a good thing for most of our 14 years. There are many things I can't forgive him for, but the main thing would be for not talking to ME. He was talking to his friends, family and pretty much any one else, I never new he was unhappy. Since he walked out he has become someone I don't even know, he even promised he would take take out insurance on me when it came up for renewal so I could have what may have been a life threatening issue checked out (turns out that it wasn't) Anyhow the whole time he was telling me this, he new that he wasn't going to take it out, he only insured himself. There are many things that he's done to me since he left that would be hard to forgive, I try very hard to focus on the wonderful years that we shared and not on the horrible end of our marriage. I have also tried to learn from this and know that everything happens for a reason, I just have to be patient, even now I do not hate him and would never want to see him come to any harm, but I have slowly learned to keep my distance emotionally.
yes i remember all to well,just got out of a violent relasionship and am enjoying being single,i think its taught me a lot about the love of life n not too dwell on the negativity.so thankyou u wa***r you did me a favour.and i forgive you :)
Hi,
well as I recall there were/are a lot great things to remember but as one commented things come to an end for one reason or an other.And yes,some are painful but if i want to grow ,I need to forgive and bless them on their way,otherwise I will not be free and able to enjoy the next gift that is given to me.Hanging on in anger only limits me and does absolutely nothing to anyone else,I end up being the real looser.Therefore I learned to forgive and let go,I am free .................
Keep the rubber side down
Chris
After 13 yrs of marriage and him in and out of jail, dui, dwi's etc... he told me he wasnt in love with me for the last 7 years of our marriage. All that money paid for court costs, jail time, and booze well he can have it. I left very soon afterwards...and wish I had done it sooner
she hated all things having to do with harleys and muscle cars. That was not the best for our marriage. She was also insanely jealous. I found ways to deal with this, and loved her anyway
cashcard923 write:
Can anyone still recall what your ex(bf/gf) did which touches you and till now you are still unable to forget? Like to share?..
& do you still remember them or keep in touch with them ??
When they are ex they are ex. Otherwise they wouldn't be ex.
X marks the spot. This is all very Xtensive...and xillerating. Xtremely weird. Or maybe she was Y. Never did really find out what axis she was on.Xactly. Now I know. Xcuse me.
XXXXXOOOOO
whoa you doing crazy that funny story
im know what you like goood yourself . but im help my best friend there of my good help them going bar . we good friend people there safe now so then what youthink so we though youare good mood story stronger now thank you andrea
cashcard923 write:
Can anyone still recall what your ex(bf/gf) did which touches you and till now you are still unable to forget? Like to share?..
& do you still remember them or keep in touch with them ??
Umm, I recall every time he touched me, it touches me in a way that makes my skin crawl, cause his touching was not nice!!!!!! Something I will never forget.
Can't keep in touch, he is 6 feet under.
Yes, I remember when she got the house and everything in it. May the bitch rot in hell.
I would never talk to her again. I would not pizz on her if she was on fire!
PirateWench2006 write:
If user ALLTOMLEE posted his comment for my benefit and/or in response to my comment, all I can say is: You sound half-baked, dude, and a bit paranoid to boot. I think that's a lethal combination and you should definitely seek counseling. If in fact it isn't too late, I have faith that even someone like you can be rehabilitated back into mainstream society. Should you care to carry on in such a hostile fashion, or pursue this point further, please do so after aforementioned therapy has been successfully completed.
I must agree withyou MsWench arrrghhh this dude is off his rocker , I didn't see anywhere in your post about recalling any bitter memories , you said you don't hold enemies , in my opinion , your ex lost out , you certainly sound cool to be around and like a genuine person , not to mention you look great in boots... everyone has good and bad memories of an ex or two , the good and bad times we have shape who we are in our daily life and we grow because of the experiences we have , so don't dwell on the bad , remember the good and enjoy life..
in parting.. I'll say.. shiver me timbers , wish you took that pic on my bike ;-)
If user ALLTOMLEE posted his comment for my benefit and/or in response to my comment, all I can say is: You sound half-baked, dude, and a bit paranoid to boot. I think that's a lethal combination and you should definitely seek counseling. If in fact it isn't too late, I have faith that even someone like you can be rehabilitated back into mainstream society. Should you care to carry on in such a hostile fashion, or pursue this point further, please do so after aforementioned therapy has been successfully completed.
Hi again and my answer to the question the other person never forget or forgives the other person no matter what it is human nature to get even with the other person no matter how lond it takes. I find it hard to understand why this question is even being asked. Every one in the whole world knows what human nature is and that is the way it is. I have one thing to say about it all records are public and any one can get way ever they want to know about you for 10.00 so be careful what you do at all times as it is public record and open to the public.
HI This a answer for private or wrench. which ever this is where you went wrong and more than likely will follow you the rest of your life. First thing you did wrongs was you Remember only the bad things and say you grew apart which is BS and every one knows it. You are not kinding any one. I will bet you a million dollars that you have changed over the years two so who are you to call the kettle black you have aleast 50% or more of the blame. Some day you figure it out that you are human like every one else on this planet and me to at least I know people change and you have to expect that.You changed and did not your husband so you divorced him and here you are. You will get just what you deserve and even if it takes 20 years it will come back and bite you where the sun does not shine it always does.
no offense, but girls these days. most of them won't be touched by the old Ch8 drama where the guy will kneel down in the rain at their gates and they will run out of their house crying and hugging and all well ends well..
I realized that with my present gf.
When she's in a bad temper, and u too or maybe u manage to recover fast, give her some time (as in 24 hours), before u make the first move.
Nothing u do will ever get a notice from her when she's insane.
U called her once, u called her twice, she still does not batter an eyelid, then u should go home. Just go home. Send her a text telling her to MSG u when she's cooled down. Or rather u could just MSG her tomorrow morning.
That way, it allows both to cool down, be rationale and meet up to at least solve the misunderstanding.
